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The power of self-esteem: understand it and bend to your direction.

The impact of self-esteem is undeniably profound. It has a massive effect on the quality of our lives and how we function in society. High self-esteem is correlated with positive thinking and happiness in general, whereas low self-esteem is correlated with negativity and constant overthinking and confusion. A good understanding of self-esteem and how it is responsible for the quality of the life we are leading is a good starting point to figure out ways to boost one’s self-esteem and enhance particular areas of one’s life. What I want to do in this blog posts is show you the benefits of having a high level of self-esteem and show you also that it is more powerful than you think, just bear with me. 

  • Relationships

In the area of love and intimate relationships, self-esteem can be a huge determinant of the success of our relationships with our partners. If both partners enjoy a fundamental sense of efficacy and worth, and see themselves as lovable and able to project love, the experience will be efficient as both will appreciate and love each other. In a relationship of two partners with high self-esteem, love, benevolence, and caring feel natural and both feel that they have something to give; they are not trapped in feelings of self-deficiency. This is because high self-esteem is often correlated with confidence in one’s feeling which always leads to happiness with the significant other and self-fulfilling prophecies. 

On the other hand, low self-esteem can ruin and poison relationships. We have all heard the saying that “if you do not love yourself, you’ll be unable to love”, and that is exactly how it is. If one or both partners do not feel lovable, it is very difficult for them to believe they are loved by others. The science of self-esteem shows that people who lack respect for who they are have very little to give. In their emotional impoverishment, they don’t see their partners as people with whom they will share the excitement of life or appreciate them as they are in their own right. Rather, they see them as sources of approval or disapproval. That is why relationships like this often fail.

  • The Workplace

In the work environment, which is a crucial place to every individual, low self-esteem can bring our own demise. Poor self-esteem triggers negative responses in the workplace, especially toward other co-workers, which often leads to poor achievements and eventually to firing. An obvious sign of low-self-esteem is the need to perceive other groups or individuals in the workplace as inferior. Low-self-esteem individuals, especially males, often have a wrong sense of power that is contained only in sexual domination. These kind of men are often frightened by women and their ability of self-assurance. Low self-esteem individuals often mute their intelligence, they don’t trust their abilities, so they dread being visible in the workplace, and they hide, then suffer because no one sees them. High self-esteem individuals, on the other hand, are people who are shiny in the work place, more productive and very sociable. That is because they trust their abilities and accept their weaknesses, this makes them appreciated by their employers and are more likely to get promotions. 

High self-esteem is a powerful trait that every individual deserves to have. It a right that any human should enjoy, because in the lack of self-esteem our happiness is at stake. 

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